Written by: Paola Bianca F. Ventura
Usually, it is a woman and not a man, who is responsible for that heart wrenching poem or that vomit-inducing cheesy song. Seems like no man can resist creating a peace of art for his awe and respect for the woman that he admires and in effect, there’s a big disparity between tributes to men and women. We are so familiar with the essence of a woman and are so busy with doing movies and songs about it that we fail to see the essence of the other sex.
Now, to give justice to the testosterone powered humans, we will discuss the real essence of a man, but with a twist. We will do it with a woman’s point of view. We have asked a few to voice out what they think is the real essence of a man and here is what they have said.
“i’d say, hmmmm. its a hard question. hahaha. but if a woman’s essence is giving birth then maybe a man’s essence is helping in the creation of the child… but it wont stop there, kailangan panagutan din niya”
-Guila Cruz, 19
” siguro yung lalaking kaya akong panindigan. yon. may sariling paninindigan!”
-Donna Regala, 20
” personally for me, you don’t have to exhibit the masculinity. I mean, I would consider a gay man who sends his nieces and nephews to school more masculine than a man who helped father a child but did not really become a father to it. i guess what I’m tying to say is that men should be responsible.”
” Ang palagay ko, pagiging isang mabuting ama sa kanyang mga anak.”
-Ofelia SJ Rodriguez, 64
” Well, I think that a man’s essence would be to support his mom and dad first. Fulfill his filial duty towards them. And then when it’s time, maybe get married, have kids and provide for them”
Now that we have heard what the women of Malolos have to say, it would be easy to identify the words thats most commonly used by them- paninindigan, responsibility, being a good provider. in other words, women will see men as men if they would act as they should- being a responsible provider for the family. Is that really what it means to be a guy? to be a provider?